Sometimes acquaintances ask me for details about my lifestyle, after seeing me with several women 15-20 years younger than me. For many of them it’s something strange, uncommon. I try to explain that it’s a natural and widespread thing. A possibility worth exploring.
Many people, then, dismiss it as my quirk, or attribute it to some particular characteristics:
“Yeah, but you have money”.
“Yeah, but you have good looks”.
“Yeah, but you have some issues! What do you even talk about with a young girl?” N.B. This is what all women over 30 say, wonder why… 🙂
Etc. etc.
At first I thought I was an exception: maybe mine was typically Milanese behavior. Then I did a quick online search, looking for real lived experiences.
I found a goldmine.
And not in the surface coverage of news outlets…
But in the comments.
In the truest and most authentic side of the web.
Society has plastered the Disney prince charming poster on young women’s mirrors, to make them feel wrong if they’re attracted to a man 20 years older than them.
These confessions are small glimpses of life revealed, in a flash of truth.
Paraphrasing a phrase you could read on walls in the ’80s:
senior is natural!
So this time I won’t talk about stories involving me, I won’t have my girlfriends/friends write, nor will I tell about people I’ve come into contact with.
I’ll only report the experiences found online, from people I don’t know.
Some are on the edge, with very pronounced age differences, much greater than mine. And precisely for this reason, they are indicative of something deep-rooted, primal, that is in many of us.
Important note: many stories come from this article, from Margherita.net.
The Testimonials
Like you, I’ve also realized for a couple of years that I’m interested in much older men… I’m 17 and I’ve had crushes on various family friends (all around 40 years old), then for a while, I was head over heels for my film professor, who is 43, and I ended up sending him several texts to show my interest.
My friends say it’s not normal, that I should be interested in guys my age. Right now I’m seeing a 19-year-old guy. But then, a few days ago, I met a 39-year-old man through chat and immediately lost my head over him.
I find him attractive, sensual, fascinating. The idea of having a relationship with him drives me crazy. But I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t know I’m 17, he thinks I’m 22. What should I do?
Jessica
The other night something surreal happened to me: I’m a 46-year-old man, entrepreneur, separated, but currently living with a partner. I’m not a heartthrob, but I wear my years well. I travel extensively for professional reasons and recently something happened to me that I never would have expected, yet I’m someone who has had many experiences with women.
I board a plane from Puglia, heading to Lombardy. In my row of seats (3 seats) I’m sitting by the window, and shortly after a beautiful, very young girl (whom I honestly didn’t look at much), sits down, leaving the middle seat empty.
After the classic safety instructions from the cabin crew, the plane starts moving and this girl asks me if I was afraid of flying. I tell her no, and ask if she was: she confesses she’s a bit tense, so I advise her to relax, breathe calmly and enjoy the view, and to distract her I tell her an anecdote from my first plane trips. This starts a pleasant chat, interspersed with geographical information about where we are at that moment.After about half an hour, this girl unbuckles her seatbelt and comes to sit next to me, because she says she wants to see the view. Up to here everything’s fine.
At a certain point this girl—and I guarantee I wasn’t being malicious or provocative at all, since I had discovered she was only 23 (I have a 20-year-old son)—while looking at the view starts rubbing against my body, making me feel her breasts. I tell myself I’m a pervert and pretend nothing’s happening! After a while she starts caressing my legs. Between giggles and jokes I ask her to stop because, exact words, “I might get turned on”.The girl, whom we’ll conveniently call Barbara, continues to chat with me and caress me. I let her be, distracting myself with reading.
During landing, the lights are turned off for technical reasons, and we remain in semi-darkness. Barbara moves closer to me, thanking me for the company and the laughs I gave her during the flight and, bluntly, asks me for “at least a kiss.”
I couldn’t resist her, and we kissed several times until landing.
Before leaving, she asked me to turn on my phone and gave me a missed call so I could reach out to her.
During this time, we’ve exchanged a few texts, and she’s asked to see me again, in fact… she suggested flying back with her on her return day.
I’m very conflicted, but honestly also very attracted to this “strange” adventure. If it had happened with someone my age… it would have been one of many. But Barbara… what do you think?Traveler
I prefer mature men because I feel protected… being with someone older (for example, I’m 18 and I’m crazy about a 37-year-old guy) is like going out with an older brother… it reassures you… if you feel a bit unattractive, it boosts your self-esteem to have relationships with a charming man, rather than being humiliated by a 20-year-old or 18-year-old who leaves you as soon as he sees blonde hair…
An older man is wise, protective… he knows how to listen to you at any moment, talks about serious things, almost seems scared by the idea of desiring you…Lolita
Guys, but how does it feel to be intimate with a mature man?
this worries me a bit…Sara
It’s a fairy tale, absolute ecstasy!
ELI
Here we go! Immediately called into question…
In part, I’m glad I’m not alone.
I’ve always been drawn to guys much older than me, who now — since I’m older too (22 years) — are actually men.
The first time I felt attraction, and it seems absurd to say, was for a 22-year-old entertainer when I was really a child (8 years old)…
Then at 15, I had a thing with a 40-year-old, at 17 with a 38-year-old, at 18 with a 44-year-old, reaching the peak last summer at 22 with a 50-year-old, and now the idea of going out with my 48-year-old professor drives me crazy.
He invited me out for lunch, but I refused because I’ve made a point of putting an end to situations like this. But I can’t stop thinking about him, I dream about him at night… a real obsession, believe me. He’s wonderful: incredibly sensual, you should see the way he walks.
He dresses perfectly, has a fantastic scent and a physique that would make any guy my age jealous. He does martial arts, loves to travel, loves exotic and Middle Eastern flavors… if only I had been born a few years earlier… help! I’d say I have a crush on him. Now, probably, by refusing to go out with him, he won’t contact me anymore. Maybe it’s better this way. But believe me: mature men are a whole different story…AISHWARYA RAI
Girls, dear friends… why don’t you live life with serenity?! Shakespeare said “Love, love madly and if they tell you it’s a sin, love your sin and you’ll be happy.”
What does age matter? What do people’s comments matter? Close your eyes and think for a moment about how you feel when you’re with “him”… your heart will answer for you…
Whether he’s 10, 20, 30, 40 years older or younger than you… love!
ANONYMOUS
Hi! I’m 19 and I’m with a 62-year-old man, gorgeous and with an amazing body (he works out 3 times a week and dances tango).
I met him on Facebook and a relationship developed… I should mention that this man was quite famous in the ’80s, because he’s a London-based singer. I should also mention that I’m not with him for money, since he’s not doing well financially.
I like him, I feel good with him and together we can really talk about everything… this year in August I’m going to visit him in London and I really don’t know what will happen.It doesn’t end there, because for a while now I’ve felt an attraction to one of my professors who’s 52 and I can’t explain how this can happen… I’m in love with my man, but I’ve started dreaming about my professor in somewhat “strange” situations with me… now I have his cell number and we text every day, we talk about this and that and he tells me I never bother him and that he enjoys chatting with me… what should I do?
Waiting for your answers! Thanks!
TRUE
It’s amusing to find yourself on the other side of the fence and feel called out. Well yes: I find myself being almost the prototype of the man that each of you has met and described in your own stories. I’m a 56-year-old man, attractive, athletic, with a fit physique and my own business. I travel often, I love dancing to all kinds of music, though I prefer Latin American and music from the ’60s/’70s/’80s. I’m super creative, as well as an excellent lover. I’ve been legally divorced for many years and have two daughters who are now living their own married lives.
I don’t know why, but I’ve always been surrounded by younger people. I just ended a year-and-a-half relationship with a woman 28 years younger than me. What I can say (my conviction, based on personal experiences and those of friends I’ve discussed this with) is that, for various reasons, these relationships have fabulous beginnings, which stand only on emotional parameters, including: the appeal of the age difference; the appeal of the secret experience; the fact that, almost always, an adult knows how to respect female sensitivity better, particularly in romantic relationships (knows how to consider a woman’s timing, understands her needs better). In short, an older man knows how to be a good lover, is more sexually open, more refined, sensitive, always knows where to add the right touch at the right moment.
GP
I’m 18 and I also like older men, easily over 40!
I like the security of mature people, which compensates for my nonexistent one. I like a man to say “Don’t worry, put yourself in my hands, I’ll take care of you” and protect me, that’s all.
I don’t think it’s a real infatuation, but a simple admiration. It’s the type of man I’d like by my side, endowed with that security that’s impossible to find in a peer.Anonymous
Hi everyone, I’m 20 years old and for quite a while now I’ve liked men older than me…
They attract me in a special way.
For some time now, I’ve liked a 42-year-old, but he doesn’t know, maybe because of the shyness that never leaves me…. ? I’d like to tell him, but I don’t know how. Every time I see him, my heart races…! What should I do? By now, older men are sacred to me, they fascinate me and make me feel more secure!
CHIARA
Do you remember that 2 years ago I wrote about refusing a date with one of my professors who was 48?
Well, in the end, we both gave in, and it was more than just lunch… we’ve been together for 2 years.
And you have no idea how these 2 years have been the best of my entire life. We’ve been living together for a year and a half, with a dog and a cat. We plan to get married, as soon as I finish my studies.
It wasn’t easy at all to tell my parents about my new relationship, to explain to them how I had left my ex-boyfriend who was 30, an entrepreneur, rich and from a good family (but, believe me, a total jerk) for a wonderful 48-year-old man.
I’ll just tell you that they kicked me out of the house and I had to find a couple of jobs to be able to finish paying for my studies (I’m at a private university and it wasn’t easy at all).
Him? He has ALWAYS been there in EVERY MOMENT, constantly by my side.
He has always been and still is my biggest fan: he pushes me to improve myself, we talk a lot, so much, about Us and our future and time…
Time seems to have stopped. Everything is so beautiful it seems like a product of my imagination. So set aside the age issue, forget the prejudices and live your stories. Think of the One you love as a UNIQUE person and dive in headfirst, what does it matter how old we are, what matters is how we live this life of ours which is ONE and ONLY ONE. So let’s try to BE HAPPY… the rest will follow.AISHWARYA RAI
I’m an 18-year-old woman, I work as a cashier in a supermarket.
For a month now, a customer has been coming to my register every day.
The first day I looked at him and thought: “Not bad.” He’s around 50, well put together, athletic. My type.
As the days went by, when he came to the register, I felt myself getting wet. My body wanted him, also because I noticed he had a nice bulge in his pants.
I’ve tried everything: smiles, winks, touching his hand when I gave him change. But no success. I have a nice body, a D cup, a pretty face, so I’m not lacking anything.
I’m tormented, I really want to have sex with him. You might wonder why I don’t look for guys my age: I’ve tried, but without enjoyment.
I love mature men.Laura
I finally found a way to vent too. Honestly I’m glad, because I thought I was the only one.
For a couple of months I’ve felt a strong attraction to one of my superiors… he’s 54, I’m only 25. But the worst thing is that he’s the father of a guy I dated this summer.
I’ve always criticized older men who felt attraction to young girls, but now that I’m in the situation I really don’t know how to behave.
His looks, his voice, his way of walking… I can’t stop thinking about him and every time I see him at work I seem like an idiot…
Maybe it will remain just a platonic desire, but I only know that a foolish fear scares me, because it had never happened to me before…
Really, I don’t know how to behave…Elisabeth
I’m 25, he’s 60. He’s my boss! He has a respectable position, is well-off, and separated. He left the partner he was with for 4 years. At first, I couldn’t conceive that he could court me, as I’m engaged. Then I fell in love, and not for money, also because with him I only share work and the bed. No vacations or luxurious outings, we prefer not to let people know about us. Not everyone would agree. I left my fiancé because he didn’t give me what he does. The sex is fantastic!!!! He’s attentive to satisfying me at all costs. My parents wouldn’t accept it, my mother said I could leave home…
How do you do it? Do you keep your relationships hidden??
Anonymous
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