Sometimes acquaintances ask me about my lifestyle after seeing me with several girls 15-20 years younger than me. For many of them, it’s something strange, uncommon. I try to explain that it’s a natural and widespread thing. An opportunity to explore.
Many people then dismiss it as a quirk of mine, or attribute it to some particular traits:
“Yeah, but you have money.”
“Yeah, but you have good looks.”
“Yeah, but you have some issues! What do you talk about with a young girl?” Note: This is what all women over 30 say, who knows why… 🙂
Etc. etc.
At first, I thought I was an exception: maybe my behavior was typically Milanese. Then I did a quick online search, looking for real-life experiences.
I found a goldmine.
And not in the surface coverage of news outlets…
But in the comments.
In the truest and most authentic side of the web.
Society has plastered the Disney prince charming poster on young women’s mirrors, to make them feel wrong if they’re attracted to a man 20 years older than them.
These confessions are small glimpses of life revealed, in a flash of truth.
Paraphrasing a phrase seen on walls in the ’80s:
senior is natural!
So this time I won’t talk about stories that involve me, I won’t have my girls/friends write, nor will I tell about people I’ve come into contact with.
I’ll only report the experiences found online, from people I don’t know.
Some are on the edge, with very pronounced age differences, much greater than mine. And precisely for this reason, they are indicative of something deep-rooted, primal, that is in many of us.
Important note: many stories come from this article, from Margherita.net.
The Testimonials
Like you, I’ve also realized for a couple of years that I’m interested in much older men… I’m 17 and I’ve had crushes on various family friends (all around 40 years old), then for a while, I was head over heels for my film professor, who is 43, and I ended up sending him several texts to show my interest.
Jessica
My friends say it’s not normal, that I should be interested in guys my age. Now I’m seeing a 19-year-old guy. But then, a few days ago, I met a 39-year-old man through chat and immediately lost my mind over him.
I find him attractive, sensual, fascinating. The idea of having a relationship with him drives me crazy. But I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t know I’m 17, he thinks I’m 22. What should I do?
The other night something surreal happened: I’m a 46-year-old man, an entrepreneur, separated, but currently living with a partner. I’m not a stud, but I age well. I travel a lot for work, and recently something happened that I never expected, even though I’ve had many experiences with women.
I board a plane from Puglia, heading to Lombardy. In my row of seats (3 seats), I’m sitting by the window, and shortly after, a beautiful, very young girl (whom I honestly didn’t look at much) sits down, leaving the middle seat empty.
After the usual safety instructions from the crew, the plane starts moving, and this girl asks me if I’m afraid of flying. I say no and ask if she is: she confesses she’s a bit tense, so I advise her to relax, breathe calmly, and enjoy the view, and to distract her, I tell her an anecdote from my first flights. Thus begins a pleasant chat, interspersed with geographic updates on where we are at that moment.After about half an hour, this girl unbuckles her seatbelt and comes to sit next to me, saying she wants to see the view. So far, so good.
At a certain point, this girl — and I assure you I wasn’t being at all suggestive or provocative, since I found out she was only 23 (I have a 20-year-old son) — while looking at the view, starts rubbing against my body, making me feel her breasts. In my mind, I tell myself I’m a pervert and pretend nothing’s happening! After a while, she starts caressing my legs. Between giggles and jokes, I ask her to stop because, in my exact words, “I might get excited.”The girl, whom we’ll conveniently call Barbara, continues to chat with me and caress me. I let her be, distracting myself with reading.
Traveler
During landing, the lights are turned off for technical reasons, and we remain in semi-darkness. Barbara moves closer to me, thanking me for the company and the laughs I gave her during the flight and, bluntly, asks me for “at least a kiss.”
I couldn’t resist her, and we kissed several times until landing.
Before leaving, she asked me to turn on my phone and gave me a missed call so I could reach out to her.
During this time, we’ve exchanged a few texts, and she’s asked to see me again, in fact… she suggested flying back with her on her return day.
I’m very torn, but honestly also very attracted to this adventure, so “strange.” If it had happened with someone my age… it would have been just one of many. But Barbara… what do you think?
I prefer mature men because I feel protected… being with someone older (for example, I’m 18 and I’m crazy about a 37-year-old guy) is like going out with an older brother… it reassures you… if you feel a bit unattractive, it boosts your self-esteem to have relationships with a charming man, rather than being humiliated by a 20-year-old or 18-year-old who leaves you as soon as he sees blonde hair…
Lolita
An older man is wise, protective… he knows how to listen to you at any moment, talks about serious things, almost seems scared by the idea of desiring you…
Guys, but how does it feel to be intimate with a mature man?
Sara
this worries me a bit…
It’s a fairy tale, absolute ecstasy!
ELI
Here we go! Immediately called into question…
AISHWARYA RAI
In part, I’m glad I’m not alone.
I’ve always been drawn to guys much older than me, who now — since I’m older too (22 years) — are actually men.
The first time I felt attraction, and it seems absurd to say, was for a 22-year-old entertainer when I was really a child (8 years old)…
Then at 15, I had a thing with a 40-year-old, at 17 with a 38-year-old, at 18 with a 44-year-old, reaching the peak last summer at 22 with a 50-year-old, and now the idea of going out with my 48-year-old professor drives me crazy.
He invited me out for lunch, but I refused because I decided to put a “full stop” to such situations. But I can’t stop thinking about him, I dream about him at night… a real obsession, believe me. He’s wonderful: incredibly sensual, you should see how he walks.
He dresses perfectly, has a fantastic scent, and a body that would make any peer of mine envious. He practices martial arts, loves to travel, adores exotic and Middle Eastern flavors… if only I had been born a few years earlier… help! I’d say I’m smitten with him. Now, probably, by refusing to go out with him, he won’t contact me anymore. Maybe it’s for the best. But believe me: mature men are a whole different story…
Girls, dear friends… why don’t you live life with serenity?! Shakespeare said “Love, love madly and if they tell you it’s a sin, love your sin and you’ll be happy.”
What does age matter? What do people’s comments matter? Close your eyes and think for a moment about how you feel when you’re with “him”… your heart will answer for you…
Whether he’s 10, 20, 30, 40 years older or younger than you… love!
ANONYMOUS
Hi! I’m 19 and I’m with a 62-year-old man, gorgeous and with an amazing body (he works out 3 times a week and dances tango).
I met him on Facebook and a relationship developed… I must clarify that this man was quite famous in the ’80s because he’s a London singer. I also clarify that I’m not with him for money, as he’s not doing well financially.
I like him, I feel good with him, and together we can really talk about everything… this August, I’m going to visit him in London, and I really don’t know what will happen.It’s not over yet, because for some time now, I’ve felt an attraction to my 52-year-old professor, and I can’t explain how it can happen… I’m in love with my man, but I’ve started dreaming about my professor in somewhat “strange” situations with me… now I have his cell number, and we text every day, talking about this and that, and he tells me I never bother him and that he enjoys chatting with me… what should I do?
Waiting for your answers! Thanks!
TRUE
It’s funny to find myself on the other side of the barricade and feel called into question. Well, yes: I find myself almost the prototype of the man each of you has encountered and recounted in your stories. I’m a 56-year-old man, attractive, sporty, athletic build, with an independent business behind me. I travel often, love dancing to all kinds of music, although I prefer Latin-American and ’60s/’70s/’80s music. I’m super creative, as well as a great lover. I’ve been legally divorced for many years and have two daughters, who now live their married lives.
I don’t know why, but I’ve always been surrounded by younger people. I just ended a year-and-a-half relationship with a girl 28 years younger than me. What I can say (my belief, based on personal experiences and those of friends with whom we’ve discussed the topic) is that, for various reasons, these stories have fabulous beginnings, which stand only on emotional parameters, including: the allure of the age difference; the allure of the secret experience; the fact that, almost always, an adult knows how to respect female sensitivity more, especially in a romantic relationship (he knows how to consider a woman’s timing, understands her needs better). In short, an adult man knows how to be a good lover, is more sexually open, more polite, sensitive, always knows where to put the touch at the right moment.
GP
I’m 18 and I also like older men, easily over 40!
Anonymous
I like the security of mature people, which compensates for my nonexistent one. I like a man to say “Don’t worry, put yourself in my hands, I’ll take care of you” and protect me, that’s all.
I don’t think it’s a real infatuation, but a simple admiration. It’s the type of man I’d like by my side, endowed with that security that’s impossible to find in a peer.
Hi everyone, I’m 20 and for quite some time now, I’ve liked older men…
They attract me in a special way.
For some time now, I’ve liked a 42-year-old, but he doesn’t know, maybe because of the shyness that never leaves me…. ? I’d like to tell him, but I don’t know how. Every time I see him, my heart races…! What should I do? By now, older men are sacred to me, they fascinate me and make me feel more secure!
CHIARA
Do you remember that 2 years ago I wrote about refusing a date with my 48-year-old professor?
AISHWARYA RAI
Well, in the end, we both gave in, and it was more than just lunch… we’ve been together for 2 years.
And you have no idea how these 2 years have been the best of my life. We’ve been living together for a year and a half, with a dog and a cat. We plan to get married as soon as I finish my studies.
It wasn’t easy at all to tell my parents about my new relationship, to explain to them how I left my 30-year-old ex-boyfriend, an entrepreneur, rich and from a good family (but, believe me, a real jerk) for a wonderful 48-year-old man.
I’ll just say that they kicked me out of the house, and I had to find a couple of jobs to finish paying for my studies (I’m in a private university, and it wasn’t easy at all).
Him? He’s ALWAYS been there in EVERY MOMENT, constantly by my side.
He’s always been and still is my biggest supporter: he pushes me to improve, we talk a lot, a lot, about Us and our future, and time…
Time seems to have stopped. It’s all so beautiful it seems like a product of my imagination. So put aside the age issue, forget the prejudices, and live your stories. Think of the One you love as a UNIQUE person and dive in headfirst, who cares how old we are, the important thing is how we live this life of ours, which is ONE and ONLY ONE. Let’s try to BE HAPPY… the rest will come by itself.
I’m an 18-year-old girl, working as a cashier in a supermarket.
Laura
For a month now, a customer has been coming to my register every day.
The first day I looked at him and thought: “Not bad.” He’s around 50 years old, well-built, sporty. My type.
As the days went by, when he came to the register, I felt myself getting wet. My body wanted him, also because I noticed he had a nice bulge in his pants.
I’ve tried everything: smiles, winks, touching his hand when giving him change. But to no avail. I have a nice body, a D-cup, a pretty face, so I’m not lacking anything.
I’m tormented, I really want to have sex with him. You might wonder why I don’t look for guys my age: I’ve tried, but without enjoyment.
I love mature men.
I’ve finally found a way to vent too. Honestly, I’m happy because I thought I was the only one.
Elisabeth
For a couple of months, I’ve felt a strong attraction to my superior… he’s 54, I’m only 25. But the worst part is that he’s the father of a guy I dated this summer.
I’ve always criticized older men who were attracted to young girls, but now that I’m in the situation, I really don’t know how to behave.
His looks, his voice, his way of walking… I can’t stop thinking about him, and every time I see him at work, I seem like a fool…
Maybe it will remain just a platonic desire, but I only know that a silly fear scares me because it had never happened to me…
Really, I don’t know how to behave…
I’m 25, he’s 60. He’s my boss! He has a respectable position, is well-off, and separated. He left the partner he was with for 4 years. At first, I couldn’t conceive that he could court me, as I’m engaged. Then I fell in love, and not for money, also because with him I only share work and the bed. No vacations or luxurious outings, we prefer not to let people know about us. Not everyone would agree. I left my fiancé because he didn’t give me what he does. The sex is fantastic!!!! He’s attentive to satisfying me at all costs. My parents wouldn’t accept it, my mother said I could leave home…
How do you do it? Do you keep your relationships hidden??
Anonymous
And you? Have you had relationships with dream men older than you?
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